Dealing with Band Drama

UKPete24 · Post by **UKPete24** » Thu Apr 16, 2026 7:27 am

So this band I was filling in for decided that I was their full time lead singer after I did a few shows to help them out due to their previous singer quitting. I played shows off and on with these guys for a little over a year and let me tell you, unprofessional doesn’t even scratch the surface but I won’t get into all of that here. About a month ago I was at work (I work maintenance for a pretty large company) and received a series of texts that I did not see until I got home a few hours later, long story short I was being “fired” for not responding immediately while I was at work. I made it abundantly clear to these guys from the beginning that I was not interested in joining them full time and that I had other priorities. Fast forward to last night and today, one of the members messages me asking if I can fill in for them on a few shows coming up because my “replacement” isn’t working out. I refused and told him as professionally as I could that I am not interested in sharing the stage with them anymore and thought that was the end of it, no harm no foul right? Well tonight I receive the messages above and am at a complete loss for words. I’m not upset or offended in any way, honestly I find it quite amusing, but seriously dude don’t come at me because I’m trying to get some business for my band and start dragging my name through the mud for being too busy with my projects.

GearNerd · Post by **GearNerd** » Thu Apr 16, 2026 7:28 am

You weren’t fired. You were freed from a toxic relationship.

Newbie · Post by **Newbie** » Fri Apr 17, 2026 8:00 am

I'm glad I'm an adult and in a mature band.

Daniel_uk · Post by **Daniel_uk** » Fri Apr 17, 2026 2:19 pm

BluesGuy · Post by **BluesGuy** » Mon Apr 20, 2026 8:26 am

"previous singer quitting"
Say no more.

Robguitaruk · Post by **Robguitaruk** » Mon Apr 20, 2026 11:21 am

Leeacoustic81 · Post by **Leeacoustic81** » Mon Apr 20, 2026 1:41 pm

sam54 · Post by **sam54** » Tue Apr 21, 2026 6:47 am

MetalPlayer · Post by **MetalPlayer** » Wed Apr 22, 2026 10:02 am

MetalPlayer · Post by **MetalPlayer** » Thu Apr 23, 2026 7:50 am

This whole thing comes off as you trying to safely disengage from an immature ass. He’s causing drama. You’re just trying to live.

Markw72 · Post by **Markw72** » Thu Apr 23, 2026 12:41 pm

StudioPro · Post by **StudioPro** » Tue Apr 28, 2026 11:11 am

Fr fr you handled it well. Guy sounds like a salty lil bitch. Hope it all works out for you. What’s the names of your projects lll go give them a listen if you have anything out in the ether.